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12 March 2012 @ 07:27 pm
This is not a happy post  
Hey my friends! *grouphug*

As my subject line says already, this is not a happy post and it´s not about me. I don´t know where to start, though. All I can say is, no matter what believe you have, to whatever higher power you pray, please pray for those two people I´m going to tell you about.

A few days ago, I learned through deanvica23 that a member of our fandom-family here in LJ has been beaten badly, only because he is gay.
I have to admit, I only know Mica aka micamonroe through his fanfics, I don´t have him on my friendslist. But what I do know is, that he´s a very sweet, nice and friendly person, his comments are always friendly and he makes you feel like you´re friend even if he doesn´t know you - and now he´s fighting for his life.
I have no idea how this is possible in this "oh so modern" times..why is it still an issue if someone is gay? Don´t they see that love has nothing to do with gender? I just don´t get it. It´s so sick.
Mica is in coma now and had to suffer through a long surgery. He´s stable now but not on the safe sight yet. But he´s fighting and he already squeezed his boyfriend´s hand, so that´s a good thing.
His boyfriend Quay is so kind to update his LJ, but of course, it´s mostly friends-locked, so all I know is what deanvica23 is posting. Thank you for that, Isa.

And then, there´s someone else that needs your prayers..do you remember when I told you about my friend Amy, aka lotroth?
Back in September she got hit by a car and had severe injuries and for quiet a time it didn´t look all too good. But she managed to go through all those pains and surgeries like the brave girl that she is. You might think that this would´ve been enough to suffer through for a 21 year old girl, right? Well, obviously fate has a sick way of giving you the finger.
During one of her ultrasounds the docs found a tumour. A very bad one. Now you can imagine, after all those surgeries Amy´s body had been weak and without antibodies. Still, she had her chemo and everything and as far as I understood, she already had talked to her docs about going to another hospital to get the surgery to remove the tumour. So far, so good.
She could be at home, even get herself and her very awesome friend Karin - who is a gem of a friend to Amy - a house where they can be roommates and Karin could help and take care for Amy, so she doesn´t have to go the hospital, which Amy hates, understandably.
Then a few weeks ago, Amy caught the flu. Very badly. You can guess that her weak body didn´t have the power to fight off that stupid flu, and to top it all, she had no strength to fight the flu AND the tumour. But with the help of Karin and a nurse that stayed at the house, Amy shook off the flu too. She´s been even weaker than before, but still, she kept fighting..
And then, this morning Amy coughed up blood, alarmed Karin and then lost her consciousness due to her bloodloss.
Karin and the nurse of course called the ambulance and from that on, Amy is in CT with all those tubes and wires..they put her into an artificial coma so her body finds time to heal and regain some strength. Strength she really needs, bc it seems that her tumour got either bigger or has spread. I am at loss for words and all I can do is hope and pray for Amy to keep fighting.
I am so thankful that her best friend Karin is not only always by her side, but she keeps us updated as well.

Please understand, that I pretty much only summed up everything, because telling everything that has happened would take me ages. But, with shorten it, I might have made some mistakes and didn´t tell details correctly. I apologies for that.

I know these are hard times for everyone of us, but please, this just takes a few minutes. Light a candle and pray or send positive vibes to Mica and Amy. They really need it.

Thank you. Lot´s of love
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Where I am: at home
How I feel: worriedworried
deanvica23deanvica23 on March 12th, 2012 06:46 pm (UTC)
check my last post i created a new community today to support mica and persons who need of us. Need artist for banner to promote the community spread the word for me. Of course you will be welcome on the community. 4 persons have been took for the attack and mica squeeze the hand of his boy. We have good hope.

i think at amy sometimes she had wrote me. God amy will be in my prayers of course. the community will be too for friends as amy who need of prayers supports with campaign cards. i open the community when the community is open and we will can to support amy of course.

Andrea: PEACElupina78 on March 12th, 2012 06:51 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the info, Isa! I just send the request to be added. What a great idea to create a place where everyone can go if a friend needs help and support.

deanvica23deanvica23 on March 12th, 2012 07:38 pm (UTC)
im happy of this project and can to help. think at others make us happy. i need artist for the banner if you know on your flist. thanks. i will open the community when i will have the banner on the profile i hope this week.
aelia1980: Roseaelia1980 on March 12th, 2012 06:51 pm (UTC)
Hey hon, I also don´t know Mica but like you, I was pretty shocked to hear about it. It just seems so damn wrong that someone who is kind and helpful to everyone has to go through that shit (it´s always wrong but here it´s esp. wrong, if you know what I mean).

And Amy... I really have tears in my eyes, that´s so scaring. I only got to know her thanks to your post back in September and she really is the sweetest girl and it is so damn unfair for what she has to go through. And the horrible thing is that we can´t do a damn thing to make her feel better apart from thinking of her and hoping and praying that she will be strong and fight and be back with us soon.

Andrea: Teddy *huggles*lupina78 on March 12th, 2012 07:00 pm (UTC)
Isn´t it horrible? I was so shocked too, I mean, it´s 2012, not 1830 or something..we are oh so hip and cool and linked together via internet, but beating someone up bc he´s gay still seems to be a daily thing to happen..that really is wrong, yes.

Me too..I cried too when I read Karin´s entry..it´s so damn unfair! Hasn´t it been enough for her already? You are right..it´s so horrible to sit here and not being able to help..I really hope she´s not giving up.
It fills me with warmth and happiness (as cheesy as it sounds) that you "found" Amy through my entry last September. She´s such an awesome girl and she deserves friends like you are. ♥

*hugs back*
aelia1980: Tulpeaelia1980 on March 12th, 2012 07:54 pm (UTC)
Yeah, makes you feel like you´re living in the middle ages... I just can´t get how people can be like this, beating someone up just because he is a little different. How can they do something like this, be so intolerant and full of hate? Just doesn´t get into my head.

And no, it doesn´t sound cheesy, I´m also very grateful that I found Amy (or she found me) thanks to your post. Sometimes it´s coincidences like this who make you meet the sweetest persons. Lets just hope that we will have Amy for a very long time, I miss her already, she´s always so sweet and enthusiastic and interested in whatever I do and makes me feel more special than I really am.
Jennifer: GW: Melinda and Jimdaydreamer1984 on March 12th, 2012 07:06 pm (UTC)
That is so sad!!!! As if ppl still do that to other ppl! It's pathetic and sad!! What is wrong with ppl! Why do ppl care if someone is gay or not, i don't get it!! If you have an issue with it, move on. Like i just don't get it!! I really hope he'll be okay and will pull through!!

I do am friends with Amy! We just recently became friends a few months ago! She's such a sweetheart and doesn't deserve what's happening to her! :(
Andrea: Damon: I will never leave you againlupina78 on March 12th, 2012 07:16 pm (UTC)
Exactly! I just cannot understand how short minded people are. It nothing but sad..there are so many other, way more important things on this planet, than this.

She really is a sweetheart! I am so thankful to have her as a friend...let´s hope that Amy doesn´t give up on her stubbornness (I´ve heard she is a little stubborn ;)) and keeps on fighting!

Sissi: dreamers_dhdreamers_dh on March 12th, 2012 07:12 pm (UTC)
*lights a candle*

It's so sad to read something like this.
I want fandom to be a happy place with people who love each other and have fun and then reading about someone gets hurt just because he loves the wrong gender or someone gets sick just because fate wants it so unreal... I don't know what to say.

I'm thinking of both of them!
Andrea: Friendslupina78 on March 12th, 2012 07:20 pm (UTC)
Thank you my dear Sissi! ♥

It´s incredibly sad, indeed. Fandom is my happy place too, and even if I don´t know most of my friends personally, I´d like to think of them as friends in the original sense. We are in this together, bound by the same interests and hobbies. And if one of my friends gets hurt or is sad/worried I am too.

Thanks again! ♥
jessm78: Supernatural: Sam/Dean hug in Mystery Spjessm78 on March 12th, 2012 08:06 pm (UTC)
OMG how awful, hon! I am so sorry to hear all of this :( My thoughts and prayers are with Mica and Amy. *HUGS*
Andrea: Dean/Sam THE huglupina78 on March 13th, 2012 08:04 am (UTC)
Thank you Jess. This means a lot to me. *hugs you*

I know your life isn´t peachy at the moment either, how are you doing, sweetheart? *hugs some more*

jessm78: Supernatural: Sam/Dean hug in Mystery Spjessm78 on March 13th, 2012 03:09 pm (UTC)
Anytime hon. *HUGS*

I'm trying to hang in there. My husband and I are having some marital troubles. He has issues and doesn't like to admit them and blames them on me. We saw a counselor yesterday. I didn't leave with a very good feeling, but I'm going again by myself on Thursday. Maybe he can give me more help on this. It's been very stressful. I love my husband and I want it to work, but if he won't admit there are problems and try to fix them with me, I don't know what I can do.
*more hugs* Thanks so much for your support.
Deborah: James - looking downdebris4spike on March 12th, 2012 09:11 pm (UTC)
Thanks for this update Andi, even though it is incredibly sad.

I was only thinking of your friend over the weekend and was wondering how she was getting on - what a horrific time she is having - Thank goodness she has support .... and it looks as if the hospital is working hard with her. My prayers go to her and her loved ones.

As for your gay friend - what is wrong with disagreeing with someone - but letting them do "their thing" while you do "yours" ... I have friends who have a variety of beliefs and life-styles ... to me it just makes life more interseting to know them.

*hugs* you tight.

In the midst of all this, dare I ask how your dad is?
Andrea: Delena: caresslupina78 on March 13th, 2012 08:20 am (UTC)
Thank you Deborah.

Despite being very weak, Amy always managed to make updates, even do some art (she´s an amazingly skilled girl) and share her ups and downs with us. But every now and then her friend Karin has to do updates because Amy was getting weaker again.
Thank you for your prayers, they are much needed. *hugs*

I just don´t understand it. I agree with you, no one has to have the same opinion over something, but what should be normal is, to let others have different views and opinions and believes. Why is that so hard? You are right, the more people with different life-styles or believes you know, the more colourful and interesting is your own life..I wished all those short minded people would finally understand that. *sigh*

*hugs you back just as tight*

Thanks for asking about my dad. He kinda has his ups and downs..his lungs still are a big problem. When he did this 24h monitoring for his lungs, it recorded a total of 1 hour without breathing..within those 24 hours. Like, when he sleeps he has this sleep apnoe and that of course is a bad thing. He´s already talking about dying soon, because of that. It´s his way of dealing with the fear, I think. He´d rather say "oh I don´t care if I live or die" than admitting that he´s scared. *shrugs* There´s nothing we can do about it.
Well, and then there´s his leg. He needs to get another stent-surgery. That´s a minor thing though. They just "clean out" the blood vessels so there´s no clogged passage anymore. At the moment he has problems walking more than 10 minutes in one go withouth having pain. Well, let´s see. We hope after the surgery he´d be as good as new.

Thanks again for asking, Deborah. ♥ *hugs*
thacha: other-khomloytalulababy on March 13th, 2012 03:48 pm (UTC)
I hope they both will be okay. I keep them on my mind.
Andrea: candle giflupina78 on March 13th, 2012 06:43 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Thacha. Amy seems to get weaker every minute, I am fearing that she´s losing the battle. Her friend told us that tonight and tomorrow will show if she´s going to make it or not. I have no words for how afraid I am.
Thank you again. This means a lot to me. ♥
Schnute23schnute23 on March 13th, 2012 07:21 pm (UTC)

Andrea: candle giflupina78 on March 13th, 2012 07:36 pm (UTC)